Some people have a tendency to only say what they want, and others don’t. If the person is going to express a request, ask the person what they want to do or how they wish to do it. We have to keep the person on a leash and not let them know what they are doing.
The main reason to not do express post request is that it is often easier to answer a request than to tell someone. When a person asks for a request then they are often getting a reply from the person they have been asking for and they have a very short conversation about how they would like to do it. In fact, the general rule is that express requests are usually accepted when the person requests it.
The general rule is that people are usually not interested in having a conversation about what they want. If they say “I want to do it please” then they don’t really want to talk about it. Saying “I want to do it” then people are just more interested in the person asking for it. So it’s easier if they just say “I want to do it”.
It’s a bit of a stretch to think about what people want. A lot of people want to spend time with themselves, for instance (and if you’ve ever been to an event where people are actually listening to themselves talk, you’ll know what I’m talking about). But the general rule about requests is that the person who wants to do something has to ask. The best way to find out what people want is to just ask them.
For instance, I can’t give you my name, email, or physical address. So I’ll just ask for this one thing.
The third way to find out what people want is to just ask them.
This is true. And if you ask for something that the other person doesn’t want, you are going to have a tough time convincing them to let you get what you want.
The real test here is to go to the person who you were actually talking to. If you’re talking to someone, you can test them for something. If you’re talking to a stranger/member of a group, you can test them for the stranger. I have a whole new set of questions to ask when I go to the person who I am talking to. They can’t really tell me anything. They don’t even know me.
To the one person I tried to contact, I got the message “You got it.” I sent her a message saying, “I know you are a human. You are going to be able to pick up the pieces if you are not careful.” To be honest, I don’t know what to say to her again.
Sure you can. I think the best way to tell someone you know is that you actually know them, but you don’t know her. I think that’s more respectful.